• diffusive@lemmy.world
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    Boys are taught to ignore emotions (“are you crying? Man up!”)

    But emotions is what connects humans (and animals for that matter) and can’t really be ignored anyway

    Join the two… and you get loneliness, frustration, rage.

    We should start a conversation on emotional education (not only for boys but especially for boys)

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    Are these the same guys that think that eating pussy makes you gay?

    It’s no fucking wonder they’re lonely.

    Have they tried not being assholes?

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    god this place is full of incels. grow a pair. real men don’t whine and blame other people. real men take responsibility and find solutions. real men have mature emotional intelligence. real men understand women’s wants and needs. real men pick up on cues and don’t make things awkward. maybe if you spent some time interacting with real people in real life, you wouldn’t be bitter.

    the meme is perfect, btw.

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    Yes… It’s because of the few loud-mouthed, salty, misogynists that men are generally lonely.

    Maybe if this wasn’t the attitude towards men all the time, there’d be less young boys listening to twats like Andrew Tate.

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      Or maybe if there were less young boys listening to Andrew Tate there wouldn’t be that attitude towards men?

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        Andrew Tate is so successful because there already existed the conditions to radicalise young people for quite some time.

        Cult leaders or radical leaders don’t have a platform if everyone is just fine. No-one in a healthy environment wakes up in the morning and decides “let’s start some hateful shit, because it’s just so much fun!”

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    More men should read The will to change by bell hooks. Patriarchy hurts men in different ways than it does women, we are all oppressed by it, including gender-nonconforming individuals. Patriarchy stunts male emotional health and creates these unhealthy repressed feelings. Rather than blaming women, men should look towards the systems that impact our daily lives and how they force us into little boxes we don’t always fit neatly into naturally, suffocating us and justifying the general subjugation of women, which in no unclear terms exceeds the suffering of men under patriarchy.

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      Fr. A male friend of mine got into make up. Nail polish and such. I notice men who do this, stick to safe black. I asked if he wanted more colour, and he did. I remember cracking being a thing back in 2008 or so. A great caviat to go from just black, to black with colour! Perhaps men could bring this back into fashion lol

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    I’ll add that people aren’t being hugged, & touched enough. Also, infrastructure sucks to encourage socializing

    Its an epidemic of that. We are social creatures. That’s our main motto

    When we work together, live in groups, etc we all feel better. Reminds us of our tribe days

    A big part of human connection is being physical with each other in a chill way. So try to hug your bros more, & get things done as a unit with women!

    Both sides are supposed to be allies to each other

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    When all your “friends” are alpha bro podcasters trying to get you to buy shit, yeah you’re gonna be lonely.

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    This is missing the point it’s embarrassing how stupidly wrong and antagonising it

    And then you will wonder why young men are misogynistic I guess. The answer is that you’re a fucking antagonising moron.

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      And then you will wonder why young men are misogynistic I guess. The answer is that you’re a fucking antagonising moron.

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        Yet another idiot who can’t co’'ect two braincells.

        Tell me, don’ t you feel like a hypocrite to blame the fascists from disdaining empathy while you are incapable of showing any either?

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      It is simple ragebait to farm engagement. It absolutely sucks that so many just believe this is how everything works.

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        People believe it because they’re bombarded with memes (like this one) on social media that push them towards believing it, and sometimes reposting it.